Why It Doesn’t Always Have to Be About A Man

“Was it always about a man?”

It was a question my cousin asked me during our heart-to-heart conversation a month after I left my ex-husband. I was telling her about the sad state I was in, why men were all the same and why my relationships didn’t work.

“Was it always about a man?”

The question that stuck to me like glue. I carried it everywhere I go and no matter how much I tried to shake it off, the question lingered. I knew I didn’t need to have an answer, so I dug a hole inside and buried it, hoping it would go away.

Why We Accept The Love We Think We Deserve

A few months ago, I received an urgent call from a dear friend. He was sobbing on the phone as he told me about how he was treated by his partner. For the two and a half years they were together, his partner showed signs of being emotionally abusive. He would get angry at him for the smallest things, blamed him for things he never did, called him selfish when my friend wouldn’t give him the attention he wanted.

It was all too familiar to me. The same scenarios with my ex-husband played in my head and I couldn’t believe it was also happening to my friend. He knew he was with an angry and insecure man, but that didn’t stop him from still being with him. My friend is smart, young and accomplished, shouldn’t he know better?

Setting the Foundation- What Rooting Means

The first time I encountered the word “rooting” was from my old boss, back when I was still working as a writer for a magazine. We were eating lunch together and we were talking about random life stuff when she blurted out, “Shouldn’t you be rooting by now?”

9 Easy Ways To Practice Gratitude

With a lot of things happening in our lives, it’s easy to get caught up with them. The everyday stress that we face can take a toll and we succumb to complaining and looking at the problem. We tend to forget that beyond our daily struggles, there’s always something we can be grateful for.

To help you have a more grateful approach in life, here are some easy ways to practice gratitude.

5 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned From An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

I didn’t see it coming.

 When he got down on his knee, propped open a small box and asked, “Will you marry me?”, I just stood there; my feet planted firmly on the ground, unable to move.

 I thought it was a dream.

 The night he proposed to me felt surreal; but I remembered the butterflies in my stomach and how I went weak at the knees. I thought to myself, so, this was how it felt.

5 Simple Things to Do To Start Healing After Leaving Your Abusive Partner

Getting over the trauma of an abusive relationship can take months, years or even a lifetime. Depending on the level of intensity of the abuse and the length of time you have been in the relationship, moving past it can be difficult.

But, it doesn’t have to be that way.

Healing can come in many shapes and forms and it all depends on how ready you are to start the process