Why It Doesn’t Always Have to Be About A Man

“Was it always about a man?”

It was a question my cousin asked me during our heart-to-heart conversation a month after I left my ex-husband. I was telling her about the sad state I was in, why men were all the same and why my relationships didn’t work.

“Was it always about a man?”

The question that stuck to me like glue. I carried it everywhere I go and no matter how much I tried to shake it off, the question lingered. I knew I didn’t need to have an answer, so I dug a hole inside and buried it, hoping it would go away.

Why We Accept The Love We Think We Deserve

A few months ago, I received an urgent call from a dear friend. He was sobbing on the phone as he told me about how he was treated by his partner. For the two and a half years they were together, his partner showed signs of being emotionally abusive. He would get angry at him for the smallest things, blamed him for things he never did, called him selfish when my friend wouldn’t give him the attention he wanted.

It was all too familiar to me. The same scenarios with my ex-husband played in my head and I couldn’t believe it was also happening to my friend. He knew he was with an angry and insecure man, but that didn’t stop him from still being with him. My friend is smart, young and accomplished, shouldn’t he know better?